Earlier today I found an amazing drawing my son had made. It was the first time in maybe a year or so that I’ve seen a drawing he did as he tends to like to keep them to himself. I was pleasantly surprised to see how far his drawing skills have come and the attention to detail he had put into this drawing (which he wouldn’t allow me to post here).
I had a moment of clarity tonight where I said to him “Imagine what you could create if you spent more time drawing and less time watching videos of people gaming. While I know that sounds like I was judging him, I was trying to make the point that he has this wonderful creativity inside him that gets distracted and muffled (for lack of a better term).
I’m really concerned that so much creative energy in our kids is going to waste right now. In my experience, many kids with ADHD and related challenges have great talents-in music, art, sports, building things, etc. The way the ADHD brain works is not a good match with video games or excessive screen usage, I don’t think that’s news to anyone here.
I’m concerned that we have moved into a time where we accept excessive gaming, etc. and think it’s O.K. because “that’s what all the kids are doing”. That doesn’t make it O.K.
It’s often difficult to go against the predominant culture and right now our predominant culture is denying kids an opportunity to tap into their talents, abilities and creativity. They may not be fully learning what they have to offer the world. I was reminded of this today when I saw my son’s drawing and wanted to share it with you.
Ryan Wexelblatt, LCSW is the Director of Ride the Wave Counseling in Bryn Mawr, PA and Linwood, NJ. Learn more at: www.ridethewavecounseling.com