Does this describe your son?

Does this describe your son?

Social Skills

  • May be able to initially make friends but has trouble keeping them
  • Trouble understanding social cues
  • Will act silly to get negative attention from peers
  • Has difficulty “reading a room”
  • Feels more comfortable communicating with younger children or adults than peers
  • Tends to have one-sided conversations, talks at people about his interests
  • Frequently interrupts others or says things impulsively, lacks a “filter”
  • Can be inflexible, often says “No” to anything new
  • Labels other kids with ADHD as “annoying” or “weird” despite the fact he acts like them
  • Lacks understanding how he is perceived by others
  • Has difficulty understanding other’s thoughts and feelings
  • Tries to be part of a peer group who is not accepting of him
  • Has a tendency to “police” other kids and tries to control them
  • Had friends in elementary school but became more socially isolated when he got to  5th/6th grade
  • Struggles in unstructured or semi-structured social situations but does O.K. in structured situations

Executive Function Skills

  • Has a hard time sensing the passage of time
  • Difficulty tolerating boredom and non-preferred tasks
  • Needs constant prompting and supervision to get through any type of non-preferred tasks.
  • Believes homework will take much longer than it actually will
  • Struggles during unstructured times
  • Can be impulsive, does things without thinking about outcome or consequences
  • Chronically disorganized, forgets or looses materials
  • Under or over-estimates how long it will take to complete assignments
  • Has a hard time recalling how he performed a task in the past
  • Difficulty with future planning
  • Has a hard time self-monitoring himself and his schedule
  • Becomes easily distracted and/or wastes time with trivial matters
  • Focuses on small details and has a hard time getting the “bigger picture”
  • Has a messy school backpack or carries around too much
  • Completes homework but forgets to turn it in
  • Struggles with reading comprehension (remembers details but has a hard time summarizing)
  • Has a hard time with writing

Emotional Regulation Skills

  • Appears to be several years behind in his social and emotional maturity compared to same-age peers
  • Difficulty differentiating between “small problems” and “big problems”
  • Perseverates on the negative and has trouble letting go of things that bother him/her
  • Has difficulty when there are changes in routine or during transitions
  • Becomes argumentative or explosive when told to get off video games/computer
  • Has a hard time solving problems, wants you to solve problems for him/her
  • Tries to avoid non-preferred tasks
  • Lashes out at family when upset/angry and then is remorseful
  • Makes self-defeating comments
  • Does not understand how his tone of voice sounds to others
  • Has difficulty with competition
  • Low frustration tolerance
  • Holds it together during school and becomes irritable or more difficult to deal with after school

If your son has ADHD he/she has a learning issue not a mental health issue.  Stop wasting time in unproductive talk therapy/counseling that is not designed for how your son’s brain works.  

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