How I Learned to Deal With My Son's Oppositional Behavior

 Many children with ADHD exhibit oppositional or argumentative behaviors. This can be extremely challenging for parents, especially when it escalates into power struggles or property destruction.

Breaking Free from the Argument Vortex

One of the most effective strategies for dealing with oppositional behavior is to remain non-reactive. When children with ADHD engage in argumentative or oppositional behavior, it's often a form of novelty-seeking. Reacting emotionally can reinforce this behavior, creating a cycle of escalation.  By remaining calm and non-reactive, you can "disconnect the power source" and disrupt the cycle of oppositional behavior. This can be particularly effective when the behavior is driven by a desire for attention or control.

Shifting Gears: From Novelty-Seeking to Inflexibility

As children with ADHD grow older, their oppositional behavior may shift from novelty-seeking to inflexibility. In these cases, using language of accountability can be a helpful strategy. By presenting choices and consequences, you empower your child to make decisions while maintaining your role as the parent.

Practical Strategies for Managing Oppositional Behavior

• Non-Reactivity: Remain calm and avoid engaging in arguments or power struggles.
• Language of Accountability: Present choices and consequences to empower your child to make decisions.
• Create Daily Expectations: Establish clear expectations for your child's behavior and rewards..

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